Quick Note

[jadecat]

To all my friends going through some rough times- I'm really sorry that I haven't been commenting more in your journals. There's so much that I want to say- but when it comes time, words are not coming to fingers. Just know that I am reading all of your posts- and I really do care about all of you- and I'm really glad that you're my friends. The mind is kind of wrapped up in itself right now, and I hate how selfish that sounds.

But along those lines- I'm contemplating stuff brought up by kathrynrose's goal setting instructions. Details of which will be forthcoming in a friends post in a day or two.

Along those lines, I just found out about a class sort of thing that I'd like to try, but at the same time I'm really afraid to try. It's something that I think I might just be good at... but if I am then there are these expectation things- and I just don't deal well with those.

Mrph.

Comments

[dagoski.livejournal.com]

What kind of class? Never be afraid to take a class. You always come out ahead. Let me know if there's any sage advice can offer. Is it library science related?

[jadecat.livejournal.com]

Umm... not even close to being library related. It's an 8 week long belly dancing class. :)

[dagoski.livejournal.com]

Rock on! You'll make your sister jealous an that's gotta be added incentive! Besides, it'll be fun.

[jadecat.livejournal.com]

Ooh, now there's incentive! :)

[dagoski.livejournal.com]

I think Ms. Rose's advice is generally pretty good. I think there are a lot of gaps to fill in and I have a seemingly off the wall suggestion. Pickup a good Systems Analysis Text book. They tend to have some good, relatively mechanical techniques for setting goals and achieving them. I think these can be useful on a personal level because they set up an emotional distance between you and your goals. So if you have an internal critic that tends to throw up road blocks, tools like a Work Decomposition Diagram will help you more objectively develop a plan of action. Not to mention, just getting things into a picture can help you see what you're doing.

[jadecat.livejournal.com]

It's a work in progress too- so while she's got some steps listed, it's not a complete picture yet.

Thanks for the suggestion- I have an internal defeatist and an internal coward- they're separate, but they like to work together. ;) However, coming up with some ideas about where I want to go would be a very good thing.

[simplysakka.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[jadecat.livejournal.com]

Thank you. :) *big hugs*

[jiffjenn.livejournal.com]

Good for the Belly Dancing class, if anything it is a GREAT workout. Plus you can "study" in front of your husband and uhm... yeah... go from there.

[jadecat.livejournal.com]

But there will be other people there watching! (called students who are more likely worried about their OWN 'performance')

This is social anxiety- I want to do it, but I'm afraid. And I hate that. (and it goes back to childhood... )