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Monday, Monday

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Good mornin' and a Happy Halloween to you. Or Samhain if you prefer. :)

So we're back to Monday again, though an hour later than it officially is. Did you know that cats that are portion fed don't understand this whole 'fall back' thing? Yesterday our two fine felines began the OMG WE'RE STARVING!!! routine at about 4 pm. But, I get ahead of myself...

Saturday was lovely. One of those rare 'lets just stay in our PJs' kind of days. Slept in, fed the furry ones, and then played The Game ('Dynasty Warriors IV: Empires' for those who haven't been hanging on my every posted word). Took turns as apparently 'co-op' play isn't allowed in the Empire. So while the Hubby played I stitched, or watched and tried very hard not to tell him how to play. At some point in the afternoon a nap was taken- which was initiated by seeing the Leo snoozing on our bed and a 'let's flank the kitty!' -No we haven't been playing too many military-esque games!- idea. Which led to sleeping (though Leo left, he hates to share the bed. ;) ).

Hubby was kind enough to make dinner while I played The Game (steak, baked potato and Italian cut green beans- YUM!). As far as The Game goes, my current favorite thing to do is to use the edit officer ability to create a sweet looking girl and then give her a truly bad ass weapon. For those who know the game (like

mightyafrodite) this would be like creating a Xiao Quio character and giving her Wei Yan's weapon. This amuses me to no end, and my amusement amuses the hubby.

At some point we also watched the Simon Schama 'History of Britain' disk 2 or 3, I forget, but this one covered Elizabeth I and Mary Queen of Scots in one episode, and then the time around Cromwell (and Charles I and II) in the next. Was fun. I love Simon Schama! He's really quite witty, in that British sort of way. He explains the events that unfolded and the word choice he employs is wonderful. Of course I can't think of any lines right now, that would explain why I like him so much and we can't have that.

Saturday also marked two things, one- I lost the cross stitch auction. It got to be over $20, was less of a bargain than I was wanting. So it went away. So did too the fear that the missed monthly was anything serious. Which was both a huge relief, and yet something of a disappointment. But, there's plenty of time- and I'm still trying to get used to being married much less anything else.

Sunday on the other hand... Wow. Woke up early and in pain. Seemed to be just another one of the sinus migraines I've been getting. So I got up, let the hubby sleep and curled up on the couch with a heat pack against the left side of my head and my oh so lovely soft white robe acting as a blanket. The latter would be why Ms. the Grey decided to come sleep against my legs. Pain lasted most of the day. I felt somewhat better after a hot shower, and the hubby was too good and gave me frequent head/neck rubs. Nothing was working.

As an aside, I did get to watch him playing The Game. It's fun to watch because he can't just sit still and play. Apparently moving the controller around helps to move the character. But still with the pain. Tried all sorts of things, nothing really helped. Then we added in the nauseated feeling- joy of joys. Headaches are bad, they make me whine and occasionally cry. Nausea? Don't deal well with that at all. Deal with that worse than with the headaches.

I don't know why, but it seemed that pizza would be a good option for dinner. Again, I don't know why, but as I was congested I thought it might be the only thing I could taste. But then we add in nausea. The Hubby called in the pizza order and I just couldn't deal with being nauseated anymore. So, I decided to deal with it the only way I know how- via vomiting. I keep ipecac for this purpose- and I have to say as a method of dieting? I don't get it. I was in the bathroom for quite sometime, and today my abs hurt. (Course, this could in part be related to not having eaten much and the ipecac working a little to well).

Afterwards, I decided that eating right away wasn't really high on my list of things to do. Instead I curled up on the couch again to 'close my eyes' while the Hubby ate. Once again I ended up with a Sasha curled up against my legs (she REALLY likes that robe). Later the Hubby rubbed my feet while I 'had my eyes closed.' At some point it seemed logical to realize that I didn't have a sinus headache (not enough congestion) I had a migraine! Woah... been so long I mistook it for something else. Also, I have a lovely older sister who shares. :) So I took a migraine med, closed my eyes for a bit more, and then slowly began to feel somewhat human.

Had a piece of pizza and everything! And watched "Noir" with the Hubby. Noir is anime, and much fun. Two young women who happen to be assassins. The younger of the two not knowing who or what she really is. They're on a journey to discover their pasts. In the meantime they work as assassins for hire using the name Noir. Is much fun.

I was feeling well enough at this point to stitch, so I worked on a project for awhile, and the Hubby made a quick run to the store to get ice cream for himself (and some for me too while he was there). I was able to eat that too! This meant I was feeling much better, if slightly silly.

We got a call on Sunday from the Hubby's mum. Apparently M is going to have her baby this week. Hubby tells me this and I laugh, because Hubby's Sis K told me that last weekend. Hubby mum and step-dad will be out of town 11-1 and 11-2, so of course M will have her baby one of those two days. Well, that turned out not to be the reason.

M's doctor has decided that if she hasn't had the baby by Wednesday he will induce her. Have I mentioned that 11-2 (or 11/4) is her due date? She hasn't mentioned any health conerns- so this whole inducing thing annoys me. Why force the labor so soon? I could see it if she were really late- I know some of my friends were born up to a month late. But Wednesday is her due date! The only thing I can think of is that it's more convenient to the doctor to have her deliver so he gan bugger off somewhere.

Gah! Maybe there's some reason I don't know. Maybe there is a health concern for M or the baby. But if not! Just deciding to induce on her due date? What kind of sense does that make? Do we have no patience for natural process? Seems to me that sometimes there's a reason babies aren't born on their due dates, sometimes it takes a little longer. The body, often time, does seem to know what it's doing- so why force it? Hmph. Seems to me that sometimes these things are done merely for the convenience of the doctors's schedules. Yes, there are times when induction and C-sections are very necessary and Good Things. But I also think that nowadays these things are done when they aren't necessary.

**EDIT** Apparently The dratted Hubby forgot one little, teeny, tiny detail. That being that she's already dilating and thus is 'in labor.' MIGHT have been good to know that yesterday! On the plus side this means I might win the 50/50 'bet' of Guess the Delivery Date :)

The above leads me to a conversation I had with the hubby yesterday about being 'normal.' My life is 'normal' and by that I mean extraordinary things don't happen to me. Even how the hubby and I met- through mutual friends- wasn't all that extraordinary, and doesn't make for an exciting tale. In many ways the events around me are, well, ordinary. Though I do have to say that to me our lvoe is anything but ordinary. :)

When I was young I wanted a vivid, exciting life. I wanted extraordinary. To be famous, or at least well known, to be rich, or... something, anything. But those thigns never happen to me. I was a 'jack of all trades' kind of student even, fairly good in all the subjects I took- but not fabulous at any of them. This used to cause some bit of distress. I *wanted* to be different from everyone else. I wanted to be known for something.

That something though could also be bad. What can make someone extraordinary is the pain that they've suffered and lived through. The terrible disease that has left them crippled in some ability- but through which they still shine and inspire others. But again, those things don't happen to me. I have had friends that are extraordinary, both by virtue of having tremendously good things going on and by having negative events.

It's not because I'm good, or pure, or anything silly like that. It's just that I'm ordinary. I'm coming to terms with this, being okay with the idea that while I may never win $35,000 on my favorite lottery scratch off ticket- I can still win $20 here and there. Being okay with the middle road- the emotions tend to be easier, the dips and upswings aren't as wild- and I'm sure some would say that I'm not really living- but the negatives aren't so bad. This isn't to come across as pitying, or somehow being down on myself. It just is. Perhaps to some other people this is a 'well, duh!' sort of idea, but it's been percolating in my mind for awhile.

Even my worry about a missed monthly occurence never took real root- because those things don't happen to me. The odds were quite low- and it just wasn't terribly likely that the needed percentages would be met. A planned event? That would be different. It's all little things, like much of what life is. Little ups and downs. Not terribly exciting. But then again, I've seen what a wreck terribly exciting can make of a life. So, I'm ordinary, which means I must not be alone, huh?

Or is it that which makes me so ordinary in so many ways actually makes me extraordinary? Or maybe I don't see something. I know there are many friends out there who might say 'well yeah, we're ordinary too.' but I see something about them that makes them- to me- extraordinary.

(the boss just came out asking "Alright Anne, what did you do?" Which I met with my 'wha huh?' look as I hadn't done anything... So then I hear about the police officer cruising our halls. "I didn't do... well, I'm not telling." Boss laughed "Ignorance is bliss" and my quip, "What you don't know can't implicate you." then he muttered something about coffee and wandered away...)

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Re: Induction - a high percentage of inductions result in C-sections. The reason for this is that an induction cannot start a labour unless the baby is ready to come, in which case the woman would probably go into labour within twenty-four hours anyway, or just needs a bit of help getting it stepped up.

She's setting herself up for a C-section if she agrees to this. If there is no good medical reason to deliver early (and if there were, she might already have delivered) she should simply tell her doctor that she doesn't want to be induced until she is overdue. She has the right to refuse to be induced. It leads to a medical-intervention-heavy delivery, and a much, much higher rate of C-section.

Yes, I know what I'm talking about. This happened to me. Elizabeth was born by C-section because, after eight hours of induction, I wasn't actually in labour, but Elizabeth was in distress. They stopped the induction - and my contractions went back to one every twenty minutes or so. I had a C-section later that night, since Elizabeth's distress ended with the end of the induction.

This is one of those areas that might be overstepping my boundaries- but I'm strongly consiering ignoring my fear and calling her to talk about this. It just really concerns me- and I really think people should just avoid surgery if possible. AND I'm not even sure if they have medical insurance- which means a C-section would just cost them more money too.

I had a feeling you would be one of the people on my friends list who knew a thing or two about this. :) I really worry about this girl.

Her health and financial well-being are more important than boundaries. If you feel strongly about it, approach her. You're only telling her what you'd tell to any friend in the same position.

If her primary concern is, "How do I stand up to my doctor?" Have her take her husband with her, or someone who is accustomed to being forceful, to help her stand up for herself. If she's unsure:

1) Higher rate of C-sections with inductions; some numbers indicate as many as 95% of inductions end in c-sections.
2) Inductions result in a great deal of extra fluid, meaning more swelling and a longer hospital stay while you get rid of it all.
3) C-sections mean no heavy lifting, including of baby gear like strollers, for six weeks. That means more help at home, or being a virtual shut-in.
4) Long-term effects involve potential muscle problems in the abdomen. Some doctors advise against strenuous abdominal workouts for a year after a c-section.

Tell her. If it's not necessary, she doesn't have to do it.

*big, annoyed sigh at da hubby* I edited my post, but want to write it again here to make sure you saw-

She's dilating. Apparently Hubby was told this yesterday and the information didn't quite reach me. So apparently she's already starting labor and the Doc was giving that a deadline of Wednesday.

That info was a bit helpful huh? I only got it because I told him that I was going to call her tonight and talk to her about some of the stuff you mention above.

Thank you for the 'pep talk' and solid information. :) Had I not found out what I found out at lunch I would definitely be calling her- and hoping that any boundaries potentially crossed wouldn't be forever problematic.

Um, most people dilate one to two centimetres up to three weeks before they go into active labour. I never got past four centimetres dilated in total, but I was at one and a half when I went in for the induction. If she's past two centimetres, or if her water breaks, then it's medically justified. Otherwise, I'd still hold out. But you're right, it does potentially change things, especially if her water has broken or she's having a lot of leakage. That scenario leads to the possibility of infection if they wait too long, as well as extra stress for mom and baby.

Now I'm figuring that if hubby got the news from his mom, who likely got it from his sister who... well, you get the picture. Now I'm back to- I have no real idea what's going on. There are probably details dropped here and there as the information goes from one person to the next.

So now I guess I'll just wait and hope that everything is going well.

Did you know that cats that are portioned fed don't understand this whole 'fall back' thing? Yesterday our two fine felines began the OMG WE'RE STARVING!!! routine at about 4 pm.

Thank was Magnus all damn day yesterday! I didn't actually give him an extra scoop, because he's been roaming the back yard at least once a day, and occasionally two. The weather's getting colder of course, and this also means that he's less inclined to be in the backyard for several hours at a time. The dogs' stomachs were off, too, but DK took them to the park. I'm recovering from a slight relapse, so I didn't go with her.

My current favorite thing to do is to use the edit officer ability to create a sweet looking girl and then give her a truly bad ass weapon. For those who know the game (like mightyafrodite) this would be like creating a Xiao Quio character and giving her Wei Yan's weapon.

Sounds like fun to me!

I hope you're feeling better, sweetie!

I still have that 'headache around the edges' feeling but- but compared to yesterday I'm WORLDS better. :) Hubby also thinks it was simply a case of too much of The Game on Saturday.... I dunno why...

Poor kitties- they just don't get it!

That's how I feel about the cold. I'm still really tired, too. Too much playing the game? Do you normally get headaches after viewing something that's graphic-intensive?

I actually meant to say I DID give him an extra scoop, darn it.

Heh, I think it was more the hunching of the shoulders and thus remaining too tense... So not vision strain, shoulder muscles... Oops. I tend to think he might be right.

I figured that's what you meant. With more excercise he would need more food- but if he's getting LESS excercise (or will be once he curtails his outdoor ramblings) less food is good.

So, I'm ordinary, which means I must not be alone, huh?

I too fall into the "so normal it is weird" category in many respects. I'm very much a middle ground person in almost every respect. Most of the time it is a good thing. I try to remind myself almost daily that I am very fortunate in the fact that my fortune is balanced. (Knock on wood and whatever else to prevent jinxing myself.) Sure I'd like a million dollars, but I don't want a brain tumor either. I'm not sure one really implies the other. ;)

Oh I don't necessarily think really good goes with really bad- however- follow with me - just say pre-birth we're given an option - Exciting/Estraordinary, or just Ordinary, middle of the road. However, when asked the first doesn't also come with a positive or negative choice- that gets made for us. Then it becomes a toss up as to whether it's good or bad.

Not sure I actually believe that. However, sometimes it doesn't seem we have much choice over what extraordinary thing happens. So I think I'll stick with middle of the road. It's quite nice, I think. :)

Ok after reading stuff here I thought you might be interested to know I was dialated to a three for umm I think three weeks before anything actually happened. So even if you are dialating you still might be a long while. I would just call her and ask her what is going on instead of worring about stuff. I also have just one other info on the whole c bit...the women I know who do end up having to have c exspecially if they have been laboring for several hours and or pushing before a c is performed do have a much harder time recovering and not just phiscialy. It's hard to try to take care of a new baby when you have trouble just getting in and out of bed. I'm not saying that's what's going to happen I'm just passing along the info I have.
The only other thing I want to mention is that it seems to be a trend that more and more doctors would rather indcue on your due date without any medical reason I know of. After two weeks overdue there are worries about the placenta becoming partially detached and the baby not getting enough nutriens and stuff. If a doctor thinks the baby is very big they might induce exspecially if the person has a small fram...my sister shannon had that happen but her baby's are about 10 pounds and just big, she's had two get stuck which is not a pleasent thing and can lead to the use of forceps or the vagume extrator thing...side note my neice had to have her coler bone broken because of this but it healed really fast. I really hope that might help you understand things a little and didn't freek you out cause that wasn't my goal.

Good to know. I do worry about her, it's just kind of a strange situation to be in. Last I talked to her (about two weekends ago) her doctors were predicting the baby weighed about 6 lbs or so.

I'm still convinced that some of the inductions and C-sections are the result of it being more convenient for the doctors. They can schedule them and it won't interfere with their overall schedule. Not all certainly, but some.

missed monthy wait hold it....and you were sick...lots of people get migranes due to chemical changes in the body (I should know I get them when I'm not pragent only) ect. So umm is it still a possiblity??????? I really want to see little yous running around. They would be fun to play with...besides Ethan needs more friends you know.

And one more thing...your not ordinary, not by a long shot. There is no ordinary its all in the way you look at things. I chose to think my life is perfectly sane and nothing weird ever happens.Ok so maybe I'm a little off on that calculation, I think everyone goes caroling on Halloween right? Oh and Dorian thinks he's the center of the universe hence the Dorian time dilation factor ect.

Not so much likely. I took a couple tests and they all reported negative. I think it was just pure stress- with the wedding and the grandbaby and everything else going on my body just kinda broke down for a little bit. Plus I changed birth control pills (and the week before was on antibiotic which was the worry). For there to be a little me on the way it would take a miracle. And as I stated above- those things don't happen.

However, that's not to say their won't be. I just want to get used to being a Mrs. first. :) But it's not out of the realm of possibility down the road a bit.

As or being ordinary- I guess I mean in the sense that ordinary things happen to me, and I'm okay with that. Some of the more interesting things pass by me (like yanno, fame and fortune) but so do a lot of negative things. Overall I am happy, and I like being ordinary. I just didn't used to is all. :)

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